- 5-in-1 vaccine
- Chickenpox vaccine
- Hepatitis B vaccine
- Influenza vaccine
- Meningococcal vaccine
- MMR (Measles Mumps Rubella) vaccine
- MMR vaccine: Myths and facts
- Pneumococcal vaccine
- Reduce the pain of vaccination in babies: A guide for parents
- Reduce the pain of vaccination in children and teens: A guide for parents
- Rotavirus vaccine
- Vaccination and your child
Information for teens
Keeping teens safe
- Are ATVs safe for children and youth?
- Are home trampolines safe?
- Bodychecking in ice hockey: What are the risks?
- Gun safety: Information for families
- Inhalant abuse: What parents should know
- Snowmobiles: Safety tips for families
- Social media: What parents should know
- Sport-related concussion: Information for parents, coaches and trainers
- Tanning: Information for parents and teens
- Teen gambling: What parents should know
- Dieting: Information for parents, teachers and coaches
- Helping your teen with special health needs move to adult care
- Pertussis (Whooping cough)
- Physical activity for children and youth
- Physical activity for children and youth with a chronic illness
- Tips for limiting screen time at home
- Vegetarian diets for children and teens
How to talk with your teen
The teenage years are full of change for both parents and teenagers. Not only are teens growing and changing physically, but they are developing their identity and becoming more independent.
The hormones that drive puberty and bring on its physical changes also affect how a teen thinks and feels. At the same time, major changes happen in the adolescent brain, influencing judgment, decision-making, and emotions. Teens test their limits and try very hard to fit into their peer groups. You might even think that your teen’s friends have become more important to him than you and your family.
Why is healthy communication important?
As your teen moves toward adulthood, it’s normal and natural for her to put distance between herself and family. But it’s more important than ever to keep the lines of communication open. If your teen feels she can talk to you, than she knows you will listen and consider his views, and chances are you have and will continue to have a healthy relationship.
By encouraging open and honest conversation, your teen is more likely to come to you for the important stuff—like relationships, school, sex, drugs—rather than turning to friends for help and guidance or feeling alone.
Here are some tips to help you communicate with your teen:
- Talk with your teen about his interests (music, sports, hobbies, plans for the weekend, future goals).
- Schedule family time. All teens need to feel that they’re a valued member of the family. Part of that will come from setting aside family time to do regular activities together, such as going to the movies, going for a hike or skating. Family meals are an excellent way to connect with each other and talk about the things that happened during the day. Research also shows that having at least one family meal a day can prevent your teen from experimenting with risky health behaviour. Spending time as a family will help you know your teen as he grows and develops.
- Listen. Teens want their parents to listen to their stories, concerns and feelings with patience, understanding, and acceptance. Your teen needs to believe he can share problems and issues, and know that you will support him. It’s also a good idea to repeat her own words when discussing what your teen tells you so that she knows you understand.
- Be prepared and willing to discuss the things he wants to talk about. Think about the things your teen might want to talk about (relationships, sex, drugs, alcohol) so that you are ready when he comes to you with difficult questions or ideas.
- Treat your teen with respect and don’t dismiss his feeling or opinions. Find ways to discuss and acknowledge your differences without judging. Listen to your teen’s point of view with an open mind. Active listening will help your teen feel important, know that you take her concerns seriously, and will strengthen your relationship.
- Be trustworthy. Don’t make fun of your teen, or share his personal stories with others. Respecting your teen’s desire for privacy is important. If you do, he is more likely to talk about issues like violence, abuse, harassment or severe mood problems.
- Stay calm, and try not to get frustrated. Your questions and tone of voice might put your teen on the defensive.
- Offer help, even if your teen doesn’t ask. The challenge is to be involved without intruding and to let your teen know you are always available.
- Avoid lectures. If your teen’s stories spark a lecture from you, she’ll be less likely to share with you another time. Express your concerns, but know that it’s normal for teens to experiment. Be upfront about the rules and consequences.
- Keep it short, and to the point. Teens generally won’t stay focused for long conversations.
- Plan. Set aside regular time to catch up, or talk about issues your teen is facing. Another good place to talk with your teen is while travelling together in the car, when you have a captive audience.
- Step away. If a conversation becomes emotional or heated, it is probably a good idea to step away and come back to it when everyone has calmed down.
- Be honest about your feelings. If you are, your teen may be more open with you.
When should I call the doctor?
Change is normal in the teenage years, but drastic or dramatic changes in your teen’s behaviour or routine may be cause for concern.
Here are some warning signs to watch for:
- extreme weight gain or weight loss,
- sleep problems,
- significant irritability or ongoing problems with mood,
- sudden change in friends, or isolation,
- trouble at school, either with learning or behaviour,
- trouble with the law,
- overuse of electronic media like cell phones or smart phones, or
- signs of drug or alcohol use.
If your teen is showing trouble with any of these things, talk to your doctor.
Reviewed by the following CPS committees:
Adolescent Health Committee
Public Education Advisory Committee
Last Updated: August 2011